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Photo of the cover of The Dominant's Handbook - An Intimate Guide to BDSM by Gigi Wilbur
The Dominant's Handbook
An Intimate Guide to BDSM


ISBN:  978-0-578-17091-6

Illustrated Paperback Book


Hot Scenes


What is it that is present that makes a really hot BDSM scene?  I have asked myself this question many times.  Over the years, I have explored the hidden dynamics behind the scenes and explored many of the techniques that provide the ingredients for a successful scene that is dynamic and vibrant. Discover a comfortable, practiced approach to BDSM and Domination training with these lessons.


Captivate the Audience


When we observe a BDSM scene, we only see what is at the surface.  Yet, there are scenes that captivate the audience and generate an intensity level through every person who is present.  What is going on that makes a scene highly dynamic and exciting? 


Learnable Skills


Many elements that make a successful scene are skills that can be learned with BDSM and submissive training.  While many of these elements are invisible at the surface, they are present just underneath the surface.  Some of these elements include power exchange, psychosexual dynamics, psychological interplay, reading a submissive’s body language, and navigating a submissive into sub space where they can fly.


Develop Skills


In The Dominant’s Handbook, I cover developing skills for a variety of BDSM activities as well as developing behind the scene dynamics.  Part of the BDSM Domination training deals with developing a Dominant headspace, part of the training deals with learning role playing skills, and part of the training deals with the practical mechanics of how to play a scene safely in a variety of BDSM and submissive training activities.


Order your copy today to learn comprehensive skills as a Dominant.


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